new inclination toward independence; nor may we kill that desire in her by frightening and threatening, for by doing so we only increase her anxiety and agitation. Nor have we any right to regard her as a "problem," lest we drive her to doubt herself and she become a problem in fact. All she needs is a stretch of time "to grow," a measure of guidance and care, and above all else she needs a person who understands her completely, wins her confidence, and helps her over the rough paths. And who is more deserving of that confidence than her mother?
Adolescence is also called the phase of painful, frightening doubt. For the old values that were everything in the life of childhood have now vanished without making way for new values to take their place. The desire to grow becomes swifter than the degree of growth, the love of invention greater than the capacity for it, and the result is that failure leads to doubt — the girl's doubt of herself and of all the things her mind cannot grasp.
Yet it is possible to lighten her difficulties — and also the difficulties that parents and teachers encounter on her account — to lighten them to the utmost
degree, by helping her to rid herself of doubt and to replace it with confidence and assurance. And let us note here that the air of boastfulness and defiance in which a girl at this age so often appears is nothing but a mask behind which she hides her confusion and the turmoil of her thoughts.
But anxiety is dispelled by knowledge. It is enough that we tell the girl the truth, and her fears will scatter as a ray of sunshine scatters the clouds. Let us tell her that everything she feels, and every change that comes over her thoughts and feelings, is a natural and inevitable thing; that her problems are not strange, obscure matters, nor hers alone; and that modern science has studied these problems thoroughly and found for them solutions that suit her
and guarantee her happiness.
Most children look up to their companions as ideals and copy from them speech, deed, appearance, and gesture. That is natural and necessary for normal growth on both the mental and the social sides, provided imitation does not go to excess until the child loses her own personality. So if your daughter says to you, at every request or question, "All the girls do it this way," you must warn her against blind imitation and urge her to act for herself. At other times you can only go along with her, if she wishes to keep pace with her times and to make a proper appearance in gatherings and social circles.
"To be continued"
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Quaker Oats — The Healthful Breakfast
The healthful breakfast: "Quaker Oats"
A winning bargain in food
QUAKER QUICK COOKING WHITE OATS
The Quaker Oats Company
NET WT 567 GRAMMES OR 1 LB 4 OZ NT
A delicious breakfast
Boil two cups of water and add a little salt. Add a cup of Quaker Oats while it is boiling, and stir it over the fire for two and a half minutes.
See what Quaker Oats contains in the way of nourishing elements
• More mineral matter ....... to strengthen teeth and bones
• More protein matter ....... for the growth of bodies and their strengthening with antibodies
• More starchy matter ....... for energy and vigor
• More vitamin B2 ....... it converts foodstuffs into new warmth and vitality
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