talk, we know why Antony said of her: every woman has four kinds of magic, but Cleopatra has a thousand kinds of it... And so we teach our girl: a broad culture that makes of her a mature, respected companion; graceful talk that makes of her a precious spiritual delight; knowledge of the arts of sport and the kinds of
innocent amusement; renewal in her person and in the home, in the color and cut of a dress, in the arrangement of the hair and the rest. Nature is forever renewing; spring, if it stayed spring, souls would weary of it; and the beautiful chair in the selfsame corner loses its beauty and its splendor, though it be a masterpiece... And there is an important point: the wife who from the morning on wears bright, clean house-clothes, adding to them combed hair and comfortable shoes, has born within her a feeling of self-confidence and energy, and the husband's eye falls on nothing in her but what is restful. Perhaps this is what Mrs. Roosevelt meant when she said: it is easy for a woman to be cheerful and attractive at lunch, after she has been through the shops and enjoyed herself and bought; and at dinner, after she has been round to her friends and the cinema; but the attractive woman is she who at breakfast is cheerful and clean, a pleasant talker. The motto of this art with us: Disheveled hair and an empty head are among the greatest factors in the loss of your husband.
Then the art of friendship. A man does not marry a mistress. The honeymoon ends, be it long or short, and the wife who creates in its wake a firm friendship is the winner. The man who toils the whole day long wants to come back to his home to find a friend — a partner who lightens his troubles, who does her duty indoors as he does his outdoors, who runs the wheel of her household with a precision free of grumbling and complaint, mingled with humor and good cheer; a friend, with a friend's loyalty, and love, and sympathy, and largeness of heart, and forbearance — and above all a friend's self-sacrifice and delicacy of feeling... There is pride in husbands: they speak in their homes of their successes, but their failures they fold away in their depths... And the wife who is a friend knows how to draw the husband out to disclose what is hidden in his breast, if only she laughs at difficulties and meets failure with a
high sporting spirit. The motto of this art with us: Do not suppose marriage a love story without end, with yourself its heroine for whom everything is sacrificed; friendship is loftier than love, and longer-lived than passion.
I said: And then? She said: There is also organization, and marital relations, and much else besides. I said, as I made an end: An institute for wives — how strange this is! She said: No — the strange thing is that it should not exist. Strange, rather, is our own case, we women: if one of us is told, come and be a lawyer or a seamstress, she answers, how can I, when I have not studied law or sewing? But if she is told, come along and be a wife, she hurries without hesitation — as if the management of a home, and the governance of a husband and a family, needed no preparation and no study. I said: And our grandmothers? She said: God rest our grandmothers
— how many were their mistakes! And besides, any one of them understood nothing of the affairs of this world save that this man was the husband and the master, while she was content with the fact, and happy in it. But when what Shawqi said came true:
Say to the men: the captive has burst all bounds; the bird of the curtained bower tomorrow shall fly
and when woman got learning, and learning did not stand between her and divorce, new methods were needed to change the state of things. I said: Have you not thought of founding an institute for husbands? She said: And why not...? We have begun with the more important; perhaps we shall yet do the important. And we laughed together.
And I went out to the hill that was all greenery and light, and to the proud sign on the great gate bearing the two words: An Institute for Wives.
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