This Is How... You Can Attract Him!!

One of the astonishing things in this age of ours is that women fall into mistaken love because they think themselves neglected — that no one looks at them.

Here is the life of a young divorced woman of twenty-seven, descended from an excellent family. But she grew up with her mother in a house that knew neither love nor affection. And now, having understood her own truth, she lays the blame on the shoulders of her parents, who denied her tenderness and kindness at the very time when she was in direst need of both together.

"My mother does not know the meaning of the word love, for she herself was raised like an orphan. I obtained my material needs easily, but they meant nothing beside what is deeper and more precious. And when I discussed this problem with my father, he thought I had grown confused, or been stricken with mania." Such was the statement of a girl who grew up with the conviction, deep within herself, that there was no one at all who loved her. She knows, in truth, that she is attractive and sound of mind, able to understand everything that goes on around her; yet she never feels settled — as though she had resigned herself to being worth nothing and to there being no hope whatever in her life. So she lost confidence in herself: it is enough for a man to smile at her for her to think she has found what she was seeking; he takes possession of her feelings, because her inner impulses have opened the door to a weak man whose true nature would shock any normal woman. And she married him because he spoke to her of love — and that was enough for her to accept him!!

I have told this story by way of reminder, and to draw attention to the pressing need for mutual respect between the sexes, and for deliberation, and for one not to stop short at the beginning of the road; for we are, in the eyes of others, as we appear in our own. As Maureen O'Hara puts it: "If a woman thinks she is unattractive, that is what others will think of her; but if she uses her gifts to increase her beauty, and thinks with confidence that she is the most beautiful woman in the world, everyone will be drawn to her, seeing her radiance and vitality."

It does a woman great harm to belittle herself, the wellspring of love and happiness. It is more fitting that we love ourselves so that we may be able to love others; the casting away of self means others casting us away.

I know a girl who managed to marry

in her snares — and this magic means confidence in oneself, sobriety of conduct and movement, and the capacity to give, together with gentleness and tenderness. All these are qualifications that help a woman, alongside quickness of wit, tact in conversation, and freshness in her way of living.

The road of love in a man begins from the point of physical attraction, but it is a long road, and the test of its constancy is the passing of time; there is something in love that nothing can replace, for it is a bond that fastens the man to the woman's heart and mind.

And make the most of your gifts, including your beauty, for this is an important element in bringing out your personality. Remember that your eyes tell the whole story, and only a minority of men can withstand a pair of beautiful eyes. Your health and your hair have a powerful effect on your appearance, and your success depends on your personality as a whole; sex appeal alone is not enough to draw the attention of a cultivated man to you. If you possess allure, then good fortune to you, for it is a rare gift: a radiance that streams from a woman's eyes to ensnare the man — a surgeon, who had tried to remain a bachelor until he reached forty, while she was half his age, full of life and gaiety, bold, intelligent by nature; and she was confident of her qualifications and of her own spirit, believing that there is no such thing as what they call chance. She met this doctor at the house of a friend of hers, and with a radiant smile hinted to him of her particular regard for him, and showed ample respect for his profession, which she esteems — and men love to be respected for their competence, for a man's profession heightens his worth in his own eyes. She went out with him several times before she spoke to him at his office in her capacity as his friend...

This was a stratagem she devised in order to become acquainted with his fellow doctors, so that they would give their opinion of her. And she succeeded indeed: by the time she left the office, congratulations were pouring into the doctor's ears, until he felt himself the happiest of men for having come to know this fine girl. It is no secret that men, like women, are influenced by the opinions of their companions; so a woman must be careful with them — gentle, and strong.

Ask yourself: Am I complete in my femininity? Does a settled life please me more than the bustle of the business world? Am I warm of feeling, confident of my effect on men?

Fight the shrinking into yourself,