Advice of the Month

To Married Women

O wife — beware:

• Of letting yourself grow fat. Fight fat by every means, for nothing destroys the beauty of the face as it does.

• Of laying out your worries to your husband before the meal. Be patient with him until he has eaten in peace, then say what you wish to say.

• Of being extravagant with food and multiplying its dishes on the table, so that you make your husband eat a great deal and harm his health thereby.

• Of turning the house into a food workshop, so that the kitchen never rests from motion all week long. Give yourself and the servants a rest by taking a simple meal once or twice a week. And of forgetting that you have no right to eat a particular dish every day if your husband hates it, or of pressing your husband to eat more meat when by nature he loves vegetables.

• Of filling the house with servants of no use but false pride, for you load your husband with expenses which you know have no cause but your vanity; and of not letting him rest a little in his library or on his bed, crowding him with the children and their noise, for then you will drive him to seek his rest somewhere other than his own home.

• Of insisting that the baby stay in the room at night, so that your husband wakes several times over to its crying and cannot be brisk for his work by day.

• Of pressing your husband to love the foods that you love, for his stomach and his temperament must be respected.

• Of taking him along to buy your dress, obliging him to trail with you through several shops, for men hate that.

Beautiful Sayings

They spoke of marriage... the marriage which the new generation of young men has taken to fighting... preferring to it a life of freedom, empty of bonds and traditions..

Give me a beautiful wife, a faithful heart, and a pure soul, and I will change the world for you.
Napoleon

She who marries for money surrenders her freedom.
An English proverb

Socrates was once asked: Do you prefer married life or the bachelor's life?
He smiled and said: Whichever of them I preferred, I should regret it the rest of my life.

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Three women burn every day and every night: the woman whose heart has died — she loves and does not love, hates and does not hate, flares up and grows calm, weeps and laughs; her life will remain forever and ever like a feather in the wind. The woman who holds her youth and her heart to be in a man's pocket. The woman who covets a life in some circle other than the one she was created for... the woman who chases the red lights... while a thousand men drink from her cup!!

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Mark Twain wrote: Choose your wife with your ears before you choose her with your eyes. A charming wife without a fortune is like a beautiful house empty of furniture!!

The woman who governs herself, rules her emotions and her desires, and fears sharp tongues and spiteful hearts, is more than a queen.
Milton

To Married Men

O husband — beware:

• Of making a habit of complaining about your health, filling your wife with worries. If you are truly ill, go to the doctor.

• Of making a habit of staying up late, then waking in the morning bewildered, complaining and blaming without right.

• Of making a habit of taking tea at a late hour, then lying awake and offering idle excuses for your sleeplessness and casting the blame for it on your wife; and of taking too many stimulants, so that your nerves grow taut and flare up at the least cause.

• Of begrudging your wife a new dress, for you do not know the measure of humiliation a woman feels before her friends when she meets them in an old dress.

• Of forgetting to buy her a pair of gloves or a box of perfume or some other thing that makes her feel your love for her.

• Of neglecting your dress once you have passed the age of youth; on the contrary, you must attend to it more than you did in the days of youth, lest your wife be shamed by people's being given to think that her husband is an old man. And of ignoring your wife's advice about your dress, for women often surpass men in taste and in the happy choice of clothes.

• Of being overbearing and demanding that your wife be so modest in her dress that she wears the fashion that was current thirty years ago.

• And of opposing your wife's studying: if she needs a teacher, pay his fee with a good grace.